Trust is the foundation of any lasting, happy relationship, but how can you be sure you can believe what your partner is telling you? When women lie they prefer to look busy as they lie, when men lie their body language can be obvious.
One of the most valuable clues to discovering whether someone is being open and honest- or not- is to watch for palm displays. When people want to be open, they say something like ‘I didn’t do it’’, ‘I’m sorry if I up set you’ or ‘I am telling you the truth.’
The main lying gestures to look out for are:
Extended blinking: people under pressure, such as when they are lying, will dramatically increase their blinking rate in an unconscious attempt to block you from their sight.
The mouth cover: the hand covers the mouth as the brain subconsciously tries to suppress the deceitful words that are being said.
The eye rub: lying men usually rub their eyes vigorously, and if the lie is a real whopper, they will often look away. Women will use small, gentle touching motions just below the eye.
The ear grab: this symbolic attempt to “hear no evil” as the liar tries to block out the words being said by tugging their earlobe or putting one hand over their ear.
The collar pull: lies cause a tingling sensation in the delicate neck tissues and rub or scratch required to satisfy it.
In isolation, none of these hand –to-face gestures necessarily means that your partner is lying to you, but if used in the clusters of the least three, and if you get a hunch that the words and actions don’t compare, its more likely that your instincts are right.
To spot a lair, look for whether the person’s body language contradicts their words. Its how you looked when you said it, not what you actually said. No woman believes a man who says ‘I love you,’ while shaking his head.
“To lie is to worry the mind over a not yet reality”-Francisca Adjei Sarpong.
Source: Allan and Barbara Pease.